Open Adoption Roundtable #3

LINK to Heather @ Production not Reproduction.
The third prompt for open adoption writing is to share my wish list for our open adoption. A good part of this subject is that we'll be able to read this from all members of the triad if you follow the LINK to read the other posts about this topic. I'm looking forward to that.
In the past 15 months we’ve had 9 visits one being a 3 day trip of us going to see her.

So what do I wish for in our open adoption:

1. That Isabel's first mom, M, lived closer so we could have more visits.
2. That I could convey to Isabel’s bio great grandparents that we’d love to see just them if they want. I know her Great Aunt gets it but is a bit unsure of whether or not I mean it when I tell her to call if she wants to see us.
3. I could feel comfortable enough to just pick up the phone and call her for no reason other then to say hi.
4. That we both weren’t so shy. I know we could have a very good relationship/friendship if we just talked more about stuff.
5. That she called us or initiated contact more.
6. I wish or rather hope that she one day writes Isabel a letter explaining her decision to her. I know we have contact with her now but you never know what the future holds.
7. That they wouldn’t always give gifts when we see each other. I don’t want Isabel to always think she’ll get presents when she goes to see them. This has happened all but one visit.
8. That my family understood more how wonderful open adoption could be.
9. That we could have a picture of her birth father. At the time of adoption I know she had some but after asking twice I never received a copy.
   

And since we have so much I'm thankful for with our open adoption I thought I'd list a few of those too.

1. Pictures of M when she was little. Which will be great as Isabel is older and even for school projects this may come in handy.
2. Not just M but her family as well which gives Isabel another Grandpa, a set of Great Grandparents, Great Aunt, Uncle and 3 more cousins.
3. That we do have frequent visits even though I wish we had more.
4. The family blog I set up so everyone can watch her grow even if they aren't close by.