The love behind both of these boys parties and the desire to show them what it means to be in a family and be loved by many is beautiful to see.
Little L's birthday is next month. I have struggled with what to do since they could be moved any day. But instead of worrying about that I've decided to just plan as if she'll be here. When it gets closer I'll send out 'save the date' invites for friends who all know what is going on and that the party could be cancelled at any moment. Part of me hopes she'll be here so I can give her a party but most of me hopes that this mess gets cleaned up and we can be invited to the party at her grandparents house.
I've heard so many friends tell me that their foster/adopt child didn't get a party at their previous foster home. One friend told me her son was offered a cake or $10 for his birthday. It breaks my heart to think that some people just don't celebrate their foster child's birthday because of that label 'foster.' While these girls are in our house they are my daughters. And that's how I introduce them. When asked if they are all mine I confidently say YES. Because they are, as long or as short as God has them in our home.
So I'm in pre-planning mode for a ladybug second birthday! And I have to say having a ladybug birthday party just after Valentines Day is going to be very nice. Lots of red stuff on sale and since I won't buy too much until it's close I'll be saving money!!
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That's a great idea! And you are so right... just after valentines day will save you tons of $! It breaks my heart to think of children going without a bday party. I'm so thankful we were able to be with Crosby on his first bday, even if it was still in Russia. This year we'll do it up to make up for it! :)
I have no words...... I'm in awe of your amazing heart and hope when we get licensed and placements I can be half as wonderful as you.
Children deserve a birthday party no matter where they are! You are right to plan. They will remember if they do have a party, and they will remember if they don't! Plan away girl! I'll keep my eye out for some laybugs!
I agree wholeheartedly with your sentiments here. While they are with us they will have EVERY benefit, experience, etc as if they were our forever children. Maybe you can let the Grandparents know you are planning and if they get moved you can use the stuff you already purchased to help with the party at their home? Just and idea :-)
That picture in her ladybug outfit is too cute! And it sounds like it's going to be a super adorable party :). I am in party planning mode too as I have one in March and one in April. Have fun with it!
Yes T, I will offer whatever I get if that happens.
Forgot to mention also that I'm planning it the weekend before her birthday so that they can plan their own party for her if they'd like to.
I am just...shocked and saddened and amazed that people wouldn't celebrate a birthday. It doesn't have to be a big blow-out. But, a cake, a special dinner, a chance to say, "I'm glad you were born!" is IMPORTANT.
I really, really can't believe people would do that.
Who could have a heart for fostering and then make the distinction between children? Children are CHILDREN! If you welcome them into your home, they are yours.
I just can't wrap my head around this.
I'm glad you can't either! What a wonderful ladybug party! We loooooove ladybugs around here. Lexi really *is* Ladybug Girl.
We planned for our fd's 5th party only to have her move out the day before. I just took everything over to her dad's house the day she moved out. We had ice cream, balloons, a cake and presents. Basically it was a movable party.
He made sure she called me on her birthday (which was sweet). We opted not to attend the party at her dad's house.
She was also turning 5, where her WIC checks would no longer be valid. Her dad didn't have a car, so we just bought all of her items and took them over to his house so he didn't have to rush out the day she came home to fill the WIC checks.
I love the ladybug theme and especially since it has meaning to L. I think by giving the grandparents a heads up of what you are doing wouldn't be a bad thing either. And if everything can be packaged and moved to another location, well you're just covering your bases.
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