Two Mothers

Tinkerbell struggles sometimes with wanting to be with her birth mom. I pulled out a scrapbook I made of our adoption journey which included the  poem below and a letter both read and given to us the day Tinkerbell was placed in our arms by M. The letter really meant a lot to Tinkerbell. Hearing the words that her M said to us. About how she knew she was going to grow up with a great life with D and I. So glad I have these things to share with her on hard days. And also so glad we have a relationship with M and that some day maybe when Tink is old enough she can go spend a few days with her on her own.

I had the opportunity to speak to a couple that are considering adoption recently and I told them how happy it made me that Tink is proud of the fact that she has two mothers. It might confuse people if she tells them but I love that she is confident in both her mothers love.


Read this poem with Tinkerbell this morning:

Once there were two women
Who never knew each other.
One you will always know and love,
The other you call mother.

Two different lives
Shaped to make yours one.
One became your guiding star,
The other became your sun.

The first gave you life
And the second taught you to live it.
The first gave you a need for love
And the second was there to give it.

One gave you a nationality,
The other gave you a name.
One gave you a seed of talent,
The other gave you an aim.

One gave you emotions,
The other calmed your fears.
One saw your first sweet smile,
The other dried your tears.

One placed you in the others arms.
It was all that she could do.
The other prayed for a child
And God led her straight to you.

And now you ask me
Through your tears,
The age-old question
Through the years:
Heredity or environment
Which are you the product of?
Neither, my darling -- neither,
Just two different kinds of love.

Then and Now

I love seeing Flower in Tinkerbell's old things. This was a favorite of mine so Flower is wearing it today on the first day of fall. Tinkerbell was 2 1/2 and Flower is 3.

New House - Slow Internet

Hopefully we'll have proper internet up next week.
We are loving our new rental house. The kids love the stairs. The backyard needs work and the owner said they will help after our first winter here. I love the fact that we'll be able to grow some things in the garden. Right now Flower's favorite thing to do is try to lock the dog in the garden.

This is the main bathroom which the girls will share. Love that it was already painted green.

We are loving it here in WA. We have explored a lot within a short drive from home. This will be the first time D has ever lived somewhere with actual seasons and he's enjoying the start of fall very much.

8 Years of Pumpkin Hat